I really dont understand the snark here, much less the do as I please nobody was threatening you with a restraining order. You never know how someones going to handle rejection if you dont know them well (and even sometimes if you do). Last sentence should read: Id be flattered, even if I was NOT interested. Am I the only one remembering Taylor the Latte Boy and Lisa the Stalker Chick songs? Listen, Im coming out months worth of lurk-hiding just to say: nooooooo! I may or may not have drunk texted him after that and needless to say, we never ended up dating. Do NOT make any comments about their physical appearance, that will make it weird forever. Ugh. Asking a cashier out is not always an easy prospect. Cookie Notice I think you should go for it, but Im optimistic like that. I used to work at a library too and we were always told not to give out our full names and to be vigilant of patrons. Put yourself somewhere that she might be out of work. Maybe we could get cheese fries on another day, then you know. MMmmm Chipotle. As long as she's doing anything related to her job (which does involve commuting to and from her home) you leave her alone. Or something like that, I don't remember, it doesn't matter anyway. Truthfully, then youll know if the other person likes you platonically, and if you like them. And as long as you are willing to hear them say no (and you are not a crazy person) then there is not a lot to lose. Apologies on behalf of the male half of the human race. The cashier will not be creeped out by this approach and can indicate her receptiveness in how she responds to this no-pressure overture. Asking her 10 times more won't bring a better result. She said shes there to work, not to get hit on or asked out. Be bold with your words if possible but dont be too overt or desperate. This way, both of you can learn more about each other while also discovering new places at the same time; an enjoyable experience for everyone involved! I think youll only figure that out if you can talk to him outside of work. I definitely advocate making any sort of social overture carefully and without undue pressure, I just dont know that I can agree with the voices advocating for blanket ban. She seemed interested, so I just asked "Are you new here? I think the thing here, is thatlike someone posted upthreadhitting on versus asking out and what constitutes the line between them is subjective. Learn more about Stack Overflow the company, and our products. At the end of the day, Im with Captain Awkward. This is different, though, from approaching the object of affection. Would it really be flattering if you got asked out at work? *Actually, I was a lifeguard in another life. Too bad The IT Crowd is off the air, I could totally see them doing a show like this one. The local pop/rock station was throwing a concert and I had extra tickets and invited him to come along with my group of friends. I don't like asking people out at their workplace, it's her job to be there, I don't want to make it awkward. just take your chance and be yourself you have nothing to lose.. you never know she might just be waiting for you to ask. Anyway, it doesn't have to be a rock band, it could be a sporting match, play, whatever - just as long as it's a small enough venue (Taylor Swift concert is much too large) and the entry cost isn't too high. Thanks for another positive story!! Youre visualizing a very specific scenario, where youre being asked out in a very nonthreatening way, presumably by having a woman express interest in you, which doesnt happen so much in a culture that discourages women from doing this. Some were way too persistent. A simple compliment or two can go a long way in making a good impression on someone; let them know what drew you towards them in the first place! how in the heck are people supposed to meet these days if you dont want to do so at bars or online? Martial arts class. Book club. As a woman, Im also flattered when Im politely asked out, even though I do not accept the invitations (Im married). And I just want to get my paycheck and go home. Just be subtle about it and see where it goes. I think he was banned from campus finally because I never saw him again. They do it every Tuesday and Thursday at 7pm - the admission fee is 5 Euro. An employee could reasonably feel just as trapped into responding favorably to the polite request for a coffee date as a skeezy come on. It would be ok if you ran into an employee somewhere else organically. Yes. Her ex used her for her body they broke up 9mos ago. There is a certain expectation put on the retail worker to always be polite, to be friendly, and to be helpful. Parabolic, suborbital and ballistic trajectories all follow elliptic paths. Its great to know that youd be flattered (even if not interested)! Too much overthinking going on here. I would assume that say, a Chipotle employee would probably feel way less pressure/expectation as part of the job to be friendly in the face of gross hitting on, because their wages arent as reliant on the customers decision to tip/not tip. I've never asked out someone I've had no prior knowledge of and think it would be fun. I dont regret it though. Also regarding not having much time because there's a lineup. To me, it'd come across as a creepy behaviour. -while she wasnt ever really convinced that he was flirting with her, everyone else was But what is your advice? Personally, Ive never really liked turning people down in any setting, probably because of my conditioning as a woman in this society, and it just gets weirder and more awkward when Im in customer service/dont upset the customer mode, even if that customer is normal and not some creepazoid that rings every alarm bell of every female on staff. The best answers are voted up and rise to the top, Not the answer you're looking for? I thought that died out years ago. That fact can confuse the romantic, so special handling is required. Id also like to point out that for all of your talk about women having agency and being liberated, that youre not actually listening to all of the women who have posted here saying that they do not enjoy being hit on/creeped on/asked out by customers at their place of work and that they just want to do their job without feeling like a Playboy bunny. Many people really dont know how to interact with someone of the opposite sex in a way thats not flirtatious and/or interpret any positive interaction with the opposite sex as flirtation (Im a lot better about this now than I was in my teens and twenties, but I still catch myself thinking/acting like this sometimes). Just be polite. How to ask out a cashier? - Advice Message Board - GameFAQs The amount was wrong. No one wants to be a creeper. Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange is a question and answer site for people looking to improve their interpersonal communication skills. Because its *just* flirting? Any bashing, hateful attack I am a fairly attractive, personable guy and have been asked out by several customers over the years, and its never been a problem. Ask her out. I got hit on constantly at this job and hated it, but this guy was different and I always looked forward to seeing him. Are there any canonical examples of the Prime Directive being broken that aren't shown on screen? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Maybe you should stop by is perfect because simply not showing up is a lot easier than rejecting someone outright. Hmm Im on the fence here. I took his pointing out hes male as, Hey, Im a dude, so take what Im saying with a grain of salt, but this is what I think, I consider myself a pretty well-centered person. If i ever did (which i wont because im too shy, but shes the most beautiful thing ive ever seen) ask her out and she said no, i wouldnt have a problem at all i think women are allowed to decide things by themselves and shouldnt be pressured into saying yes or no. This might be a Western European city, or an 'East' German village, who knows. You can engage in small talk then, without a long queue forming behind you. truealso as a guy he would probably feel less threatened if the attention was unwanted. Unless we want to rely on eHarmony to produce the next generation, you have to take advantage of opportunities that present in the real world.. Answers always gonna be no if you dont ask. Its not flattering, it makes me cringe. You catch feelings after you get to know her, not before. Never accept a cashiers check thats written for more than the amount you asked for. Dont drop compliments and hit on her, asking how her day is In an ideal world, a polite request for a date wouldnt be totally inappropriate. If she doesn't respond, just say "thank you" as the transaction completes and you depart. And there's the factor that when men are hurt, they sometimes hurt back. The next time the store is slow and he rings you up when youre the only person in line have that piece of paper ready. I would be so creeped out if someone I was unfamiliar with asked me to stop by their home, even if they phrased it as a party invite. I worked retail all through college and I never really had anyone ask me out (apparently Im the exception based on these comments?)
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